Category Archives: My ENFP is showing again

Disney Princesses and Underrepresented Hair Colors

I am taking my youth group girls to see the new Beauty in the Beast movie in a few weeks and I feel like this calls for a serious conversation about hair. 

Now in general, I feel redheads are vastly underrepresented in pop culture. However, my sister was ranting the other day about the lack of brunette princesses, and I think she makes a very legit point. Take a look at this:

5 of these princesses have black hair. Three have blond hair. Two have red hair. Only one is a brunette!  

Add in Anna and Elsa…

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We have 5 black haired princesses, three blonds, three redheads, one brunette and one sort of blond sort of white haired ice Queen. 

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Now, there are a few less popular/not recognized Disney leading ladies who are brunettes, like Jane. (Actually, just Jane. I just looked it up and Megara is supposed to have auburn like hair.) And anyway, at the same time, you add another red head, another blond, and another black haired princess.

No matter how far you expand…

And who you include…

Brunettes really only have one good princess…

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And that is Belle!


ENFPs & the Emo Mode

If there is one thing ENFPs like, it is self-discovery. I love reading about my personality type and if you are looking for something, Heidi Priebe writes especially great articles.  However, my favorite article hands down is Your ENFP Care And Handling User Guide And Manual. (Clink on the link to read the article.) 

Not only is this article relatable and funny (or at least I assume it is for those of you who have to live with me) but it has this marvelous paragraph under “Modes” that reads: 

Emo – Activated seemingly randomly by a large influx of emotion that your ENFP unit must withdraw and analyze in order to understand and integrate. occurs approximately one (1) out of every fifteen (15) days. Completion of this mode is often signaled by your ENFP unit announcing it has learned something new about itself.

I nearly shouted out loud when I came upon that passage. “YES! THAT IS IT!” Someone put it into words! ENFPs are the most introverted of the extroverts; we like people but we also are big on self-understanding and that takes quiet and withdrawal. Sometimes it is simply for recharging. However, at least for me, I often mentally and emotionally withdraw for a time because I feel the need to reevaluate my goals or motivation and gain some new understanding of myself. When I’ve emerged, I feel more complete and satisfied. Hence, I suppose, the “Emo Mode.” 

Since I’m a verbal processor, the process doesn’t always mean withdrawing. It sometimes involves simply talking things through with a friend. The process and result, however, are often the same. 

Anyway, in writing this I am less motivated by a desire that you all “understand” me and more by a hope that this will in turn help others understand themselves better. Sometimes, it helps just having someone else put it into words! 


Another thing off ye ole bucket list…

Tonight the youth group where I volunteer held a costume party…which means for the past few days I have been last-minute costume shopping. It has not been easy. There are a lot of inappropriate costumes out there! I was flipping between the skanky nurse and slutty firefighter when I decided…might as well go as the Virgin Queen! 

I have always wanted to dress up as Queen Elizabeth I. This was so much fun! 


Who needs coffee when you have pickles?

Have you seen the Oh Snap! pickles at Wal Mart or Kwik Trip or whatever your local grocery store is? Those things are amazing. It is just a giant pickle or pickle bites in awesome packaging. I usually just get the whole pickle but tonight I got the pickle bites and they are just as good if not better. You see, tonight I am using them to keep awake. 

I left the house at 6 am this morning and probably won’t make it home till closer to 11. Lonnngggg day. Tomorrow I get to do it again so I don’t want to waste what precious sleeping hours I have being awake because of caffeine. Pickles are the perfect solution! The sour and salty taste and weird texture are enough to keep me wide awake and the crunching keeps my facial muscles moving which also keeps me awake. I am very pleased with this. 

It is not the first time I have used pickles to stay awake. My freshman year of college I didn’t drink coffee so I would eat spicy pickles to stay awake to finish projects. 

I’m telling you, pickles are totally underrated! 


Morning Brain

Last Night:

Me: So if I need to be there by 9, I should leave no later than 8:30.

Brain: Blah blah blah…8:30. Got it.

This Morning

*alarm goes off at 7:30*

Me: *groggy* Whaaa?

Brain: Don’t worry! You don’t have to do anything till 8:30. You can sleep for another hour.

Me: Sounds good. Zzzzzz

Thankfully, my subconscious started working on why I would have set my alarm an hour earlier than absolutely necessary and I was out of bed 10 minutes later. Getting up in the morning is a team effort! xD 


Miraculous Ladybug

After writing a contemplative blog post yesterday, I felt inspired today to write about something equally deep and thoughtful today. However, that was before I discovered Miraculous Ladybug. Hopefully you will bear with me because I AM SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS TV SHOW I FOUND!!!!!!!!!!

I’m going to do that thing they tell you never to do in writing…quote Wikipedia for the description of the show. Miraculous: Tale of Ladybug and Cat Noir is:

“Set in modern-day Paris, the series focuses on teenagers Marinette Dupain-Cheng and her classmate and crush Adrien Agreste. When evil arises, Marinette transforms into her secret superhero persona Ladybug, while Adrien transforms into his superhero persona Cat Noir, using powerful objects known as the Miraculous. Oblivious to each other’s true identities, the two work together to protect Paris from the mysterious villain Hawk Moth, who covets and attempts to steal their powers by using his akuma, butterflies infused with black energy, to influence and transform everyday citizens into supervillains.

Yes, this is a children’s TV show about a superhero who has ladybug powers. But it is so fun! The characters are really creative and fun and the villains are zany and different. The show is set in France and uses CGI animation but you can feel the anime/Asian influence. The horrid/corny/fantastic puns thrown in each episode are entertaining on every level and the real chemistry between Ladybug and Cat Noir keeps the teenybopper drama at bay.

I really love Cat Noir. 

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While this show is lighthearted and slightly formulaic, it brings originality and just good fun to a creative idea and I’ve enjoyed watching it in the same way I enjoy watching Barbie Life in the Dream House and Word Girl and Legion of Superheroes. Am I the intended age demographic? Nope! Do I enjoy every moment of it? Absolutely. 

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The theme song is one of the best parts. I’ve had it stuck in my head all day. 

Check out the first ten episodes dubbed English here! – 

 

 


Transitioning from “Who” to “What”

 Throughout my teen years and well into college, I was obsessed with discovering ‘who I was.’ I didn’t think of it in those terms and if you had told me I was on some journey of self-discovery I would have laughed, but that is exactly what it was. I loved quizzes and personality tests. It didn’t matter if the test was encompassing like the Myers-Brigg Type Indicator, or something silly such as ‘Which Disney Princess Are You?’ What mattered was that I was learning more about me. I needed to know why I was an extrovert or what it meant to be a verbal processor or how my red hair made me like Ariel (I was never flattered by that comparison.) Every detail mattered. My love language, my spiritual gifts, my DISC results, and especially my identity as ENFP all worked together to create a profile of who I was and why I viewed the world the way I did. I needed to know so that I could understand myself. Even this need, I read, somehow tied back into my personality. It all circled around and I desperately wanted to understand that circle.

Now that I’ve been “adulting”* for a while, I find my need has shifted as I have matured. I no longer ask ‘who am I’ but rather ‘what am I.’ One of my wonderful friends, Tori, expresses it this way:

“In those earlier years we dwell on who we are in a self centered way, finding labels and applying them like “introvert” or “shy” or “driven.” But as we get older we realize that that isn’t so important, and the focus shifts more outward. We now ask ourselves “how am I going to use my personality? If I am driven what am I fighting for? If I am introverted, how will I use my time by myself?” We no longer ask who we are but what we are going to do with who we are.”

“…what we are going to do with who we are.” I love that line. I don’t have all the answers I once sought, but it doesn’t matter as much anymore. The angst is over! My “self” has been tested and and the testing has brought maturity. Maturity, in turn, has provided a sense of confidence. Confidence gives me the kick I need to get into more situations where I will be tested. This is a different circle than the one I originally sought to understand, but it is much more satisfying.

As Tori says, “as we get older…the focus shifts more outward.” This outward shift means I prioritize things differently. I see my work as a challenge and a joy that will develop me further. I see those around me differently because I don’t just want to analyze them to contrast them with me, but to further develop them. I’m free from wondering how I will act and able to focus on acting for others. My generation gives adulting such a bad rap, but I have to say, it is one of the most freeing things I’ve ever done.

A voice in the back of my head chimes in: “Well, you know, ENFPs tend to view people as untapped sources of potential so when you say all that you are really just living up to your type…” And you know what? Maybe I am. However, where once I would have been consumed by that why, I can now shrug and say, “so what am I going to do about that? Whose potential can I tap?”

 

 
*aka, graduated and working an adult job

Check out Tori’s blog at – https://isayitbetterinwriting.wordpress.com/